You're seeking legal representation for your divorce or custody case. We know some things about you. We've had so many cases similar to yours. We respect you and your situation. We respect your motivation and your need to solve some problems. You wouldn't be here if your problems weren't serious and if you didn't need a strong, affordable team member (attorney) on your side.
Still, let us take this one step at a time. Your next best step is to find out your legal rights and what to expect as economically as possible. You won't get accurate or complete answers from your ex or from your friends or family.
An Initial Consultation is worth considering which should make you feel better and know what to do next.